lørdag den 6. juli 2013

Paint and Gaffatape

2012 painting with sister and friends ... too messy inside.

Gaffatape, boxes and paint making Minecraft model.

The part that hurt me the most was that he has no paint. And when he eventually asked to paint after not painting for 9 months they said: We cant use all our money on your hobbies! He then tried to get som tape - he does not sit still and makes stuff ... they told him the owner will be mad.

Summer 2012 - Kongens Have Ballet

Summer 2013 sitting inside for the hour we are together

Maybe that's why he is gaining weight? He is just plain unhappy and so far its not looking good - but is a happy looking kid. Inside he is breaking ... and when he says something people cannot hear him. At least he is on holiday this week, Kreta. He will hopefully be filled with new impressions. That's if he deos not get lost - nobody told him how to deal with his first overseas trip and that without a phone. I has no idea what to do if he gets seperated from the group.

The his clothes. I am a crock hater - theose shoes are really really not my style. He now wears second hand jogging pants that's unwashed and oversized chainstore adult t shirts ... its tough to find clothes that fit overweight 11 year olds. He has a bike, but I guess not much to ride for ... no kids his age. The novelty of riding alone has worn off.

The owner made dinner. He gave my son some sausage ... turned out it was food fished from garbage, washed and fed to my child! The owner of the childrens home made "sausage" that was thrown out -  washed it, cooked it and fed it to my son (and himself aparently). My child only told me now, he is horrified and forgot to tell me before since we only talk 15 minutes a week..

He still has no internet  so by now all his skype mates have forgotten him. One still leaves messages and begs him to come online. His mobile phone is missing all the time, before it was not charged since a staff member always used his charger and forgot to give it back. Now the phone appears when he is to be called by me. He does not understand it, just that it is like this. I asked the adults to sort it our and they had another damn excuse. This means nobody that knows him has been able to contact him since october ... 9 months ... the staff promises each time but not even his sister sees him. Funny how the social worker writes "they see eachother as they ask to". Both kids are givning up asking ... it only took 9 months. I cannot complain, nobody listens and the complaints get filed with sneering remarks and nothing changes I learned with the violence situation.

His "helper" is seen by the Socialworker as a familiy friend so she wont allow him to be called into meetings. The socialworker has forbidden them to use his aid. Lovely. Yet she writes to me my son is offered help ... allright, how sneeky is that and why do we even bother with laws, "Børneombudsmand" ect. if they do what suits them. Nobody wants to see that chidlren are treated like this. Unicef says they deal with kids in foreign countries, Amnesty said they got a Bærneombrudsmand - but has amnesty checked what that person really does? It's just another paperpushing group of smart mouthed women that cannot understadn my language and speak the lingo og "it's not something we can change". Well why do we need that department then?

So does this mean my sons new aide / helper / bisidder is the same people feeding him from the garbage, or is it the one that shoves him, or the home that holds him down when he is overexcited the few times his internet works in the lounge? Maybe even better it's the one that hates her job or the other that does not believe a word he sais ... very comforting that none of these issues are written down and nobody has investigated anything. It's a closed system made by politicians trusting themoney goes to the children - blind faith has a new meaning.

So much for "tilsyn" that has to check if things are oki. Especially if it's the socialworker that allows all this - she is the trusted one see, I am just the mother that could not mother her child. Everybody TRUSTS she has the childs best interests at heart. Something is not working out in my mind. But then again I am the one that got my kid taken becasue I refused to believe the system hides school violence and forgets handicapped children.

Oh, and he is not brushing his teeth since they buy tootpaste in bulk - sensodyne and zendium that sensitive people tend to use is "over budget". I have no idea how they call themselves certified to help children with autism when they have Institutionalisation rules I have read about in the dark ages. My child is supposed to be in an empathetic environment.

Twice Exceptional Denmark

Twice Exceptional Denmark er lavet for dobbelt exceptionelle børn dvs. børn med særlige forudsætninger som samtidig har indlæringsvanskeligheder. Disse børn kan have opmærksomheds-, koncentrations- og kontakt- vanskeligheder som oftest er pga. Ordblindhed/ Dyslexi, ADHD, AS, PDD NOS, OCD, Tourette osv.

Det ofte set at Børn med særlige forudsætninger er af natur Asynkron Udviklet dvs. det halter med at deres emotionelle og sociale udvikling følger med det som ses ved jævnaldrende, samtidig med at de lærer lynhurtigt det emner de er motiveret for og ender således ofte foran jævnaldrende i disse oråder, uden sparringspartner. Børnene ender ofte meget ”misforstået” og en tværfagligindsats er nødvendig hvis sådan en situation skal kunne vendes.

Tværfaglighed bør bestå af en BMSF konsulent/psykolog og derudover specialister jvf. barnets specifikke diagnoser og andre problemer hver gang handleplaner udarbejdes, barnets evalueres osv. Men der er langt vej endnu, da BMSF ikke anerkendes i Kommunerne, og dermed overses det at barnet har behov for en ”særlig” forståelse og indsigt for at børnene kan få den rette hjælp jvf. Socialloven og Inklusion.

Men desværre ses disse børn i AKT forløb, heldagsskoler og kan ende i Udsatte grupper:

De unge, som kommer til opholdsstederne, har været vanskelige at placere i de kommunale tilbud, hvor hverken de unge, som kommer til opholdstederne eller de elever, der går i de kommunale tilbud, vil profitere af at være sammen.